Author: Emery Lord
Find the author: Website, Blog, Twitter, Goodreads, Instagram, Pinterest, Tumblr
Also by this author: Open Road Summer, When We Collided, The Names They Gave Us, Meet Cute: Some People Are Destined to Meet.
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA
Publication date: March 31st 2015
Source: Chapters Indigo
Brimming with heartfelt relationships and authentic high-school dynamics The Start of Me and You proves that it's never too late for second chances.
It's been a year since it happened--when Paige Hancock's first boyfriend died in an accident. After shutting out the world for two years, Paige is finally ready for a second chance at high school . . . and she has a plan. First: Get her old crush, Ryan Chase, to date her--the perfect way to convince everyone she's back to normal. Next: Join a club--simple, it's high school after all. But when Ryan's sweet, nerdy cousin, Max, moves to town and recruits Paige for the Quiz Bowl team (of all things!) her perfect plan is thrown for a serious loop. Will Paige be able to face her fears and finally open herself up to the life she was meant to live?
Hi guys, for my first post for The Start of Em and You Week, I decided to talk about how Paige and her story made me have a kind of revelation – one that’s made me more accepting and fearless about my own life. Read on for my thoughts about The Start of Me and You, Emery’s latest novel, and for an AMAZING handpainted book tote giveaway!
TELL ME, WHAT IS IT YOU PLAN TO DO WITH YOUR ONE WILD & PRECIOUS LIFE? -Mary Oliver
In the past year, I’ve continually noticed this quote in the footer of Emery Lord’s website, and it took me awhile before I realized that it’s the perfect quote to sum up the lessons I learned from Paige while reading The Start of Me and You.
The Start of Me and You is about Paige, a girl who recently lost her boyfriend of two months to a drowning accident. Because of that, she has sort of closed in on herself a bit. People give her a lot of sympathetic looks and she’s tired of being “The Girl Whose Boyfriend Drowned.” With the start of the school year, she decides to try to take her life back, starting with a list of things she wants to do this year. The list includes dating track star Ryan Chase, joining a new club, and facing up to her now fear of swimming. Paige’s journey takes her onto the Quiz Bowl team, where she (re) meets Ryan’s cousin Max. Together with her friends, she begins to make small changes in her life in order the move forward.
It’s this: the small changes part, that really got to me. At the beginning of the school year, Paige is just trying to get the simplest list of things done. She’s someone who has gone through a terrible ordeal, and has realized how important her friends and family are.
She’s not really feeling the guilt of being alive at this point. It’s been months since her ex-boyfriend died. She’s gone through that. Now she’s just trying to survive. And there’s so much beauty in the effort to do that. For Paige, her one wild & precious life is simply trying to live.
I love the rom-com. I’m a huge fan of The Cutting Edge, and 10 Things I Hate About You, She’s The Man, and a whole host of other romantic comedies, especially in movie form. And to me, there’s one thing that separates a good rom-com from a great one: the little, perfect moments of realism and uniqueness where you see the characters talking about the craziest rumours about them and whether they’re true, or the surprisingly thoughtful gift that the main characters give each other, or the fact that they’re trying to flirt over a wheel of cheese. These little moments give the characters a little more depth, a little more weirdness, and a lot more humanity.
The Start of Me and You is, to me, romantic dramedy in book form. That’s what it read as to me. It reads like a rom-com written for TV or movie – and no wonder, as the main character, Paige, is an aspiring screenwriter who is obsessed with television.
Recently, Amy Sherman-Palladino, the creator of Gilmore Girls, did a panel where she talked about how on that show (and others), she has learned to make the little moments big and the big moments little. I feel like that’s how The Start of Me and You is written, and how Paige lives her life.
Those little moments when Paige is in the car with Max, banter, or when she’s hanging out with her best friends at a football game and they rib her about a boy buying her a hot dog, or when Paige’s best friend Tessa decides to put a special song on the radio in the car for Paige…these are the moments that make this book a little magical. And Paige doesn’t take them for granted: the book is chock-full of little realizations from Paige that her friends are really her family and that these little moments are really big.
I woke up in the middle of the night last week with a big realization – one that maybe Paige had gotten to before the book even started.
When I was in high school, I had a bucket list like Paige’s list. It included things like, “play percussion with a world-famous orchestra” or “work for the UN” or “start a charity to end world hunger”. It did not include things like “join a new team” because I was a person who was already doing that kind of stuff. To me, that wasn’t a lofty enough goal. I wanted grand, immense, world-saving things for the future.
Let me just say, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you have goals of becoming a president or running Oxfam, do it. But the thing I realized is that there is also nothing wrong with having smaller, more attainable goals like Paige does. In fact, to Paige, these things are huge and big. And going with her on this journey, I’m realizing how big those little things can be.
I’m 32 now and let me just give you the short answer: No, I haven’t done everything on my bucket list from high school. I’m not a world-famous percussionist. I did work for the UN for awhile, but I definitely haven’t ended world hunger. My life is pretty much what a lot of upper middle class lives are: I have a steady 9-to-5 job, a nice husband, a couple of cats. We bought a house. We have friends and family and life is pretty good.
And occasionally – maybe more often than I’d like to admit – I feel a bit like my life maybe went the wrong way. Maybe I wish I was living a more romantic life, where I’m constantly travelling the world to help save people. Maybe I feel like I should have been a famous singer whose music everyone downloads and talks about.
I realized, though, that no one in my favourite rom-coms have that kind of life. My favourites are ones where people like me find a little magic in the everyday, whether it’s through love or friendship or family – through living their lives. Paige and her rom-com reminded me that my life bucket list doesn’t need to be so grand – that there is grandness in the little moments, and grandness in just surviving.
Sometimes grandness just means setting realistic goals and achieving them. Sometimes it means allowing sadness and the mundane to be part of your life so that you can really appreciate those perfect, unexpected moments with your cats and family and friends. Sometimes it means just living everyday with the knowledge that you’re improving and making things a little better for yourself and the people around you.
So, tell me, what are the goals you are setting for yourself? What little moments are you making big in your life?
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